Bravo, TLC!

When I was pregnant with the E-unit, I watched a lot of "A Baby Story" and would record bits of the show mostly, after reading some Ina May Gaskin, to show my dear husband exactly how I did NOT want to deliver our baby.  I didn't want the legs-up-in-the-air, brutal nurse yelling at me to push, squirt-poop-pow-baby sort of delivery that was most often shown.  Occasionally I'd see a lady sitting in her bathtub in a sports bra concentrate, give a moan, and then scoop a little wrinkly raisin baby out of the water; that's what I wanted. 

(fast forward to July 22nd, 2008 and I did enjoy the bathtub and sports bra situation for a good 90 minutes, but finally did end up with a less-ideal birth, albeit naturally and overall happily because I did not blow out my bottom.)

Now we're no longer babysitting the E-mac in the mornings but I enjoy my up-at-6:30am routine way too much to give it up.  After BBC World News is over there's not much to watch if you're not a fan of Grahame Norton (I am not), so I usually flip over to TLC for some Bringing Home Baby and Baby Story fun.  (And it IS good fun, especially with nearly three years separating yourself from the whole experience of either bringing home a baby or your baby story!) 

Lo and behold, in two weeks I've noticed a slight change in the births and mothers shown on these shows. 

Yesterday I saw a overweight black woman refuse an epidural and then not only desire to, but be ALLOWED to, deliver her high-risk twins vaginally.  VAGINALLY.      TWINS.  In a HOSPITAL.  Hell, in an operating room, to be precise.  (They weren't taking any chances.  A hospital not taking any chances usually results in the mom being induced and the twins coming via C-section.)  It was pretty brutal - her legs were strapped up to stadium-style uprights at the end of her gurney, meaning she was flat on her back, but she delivered almost 11 pounds of baby girl with barely any complaint.  She was a GODDESSS.  What's more, the hospital was pretty fab for allowing her to do that.  Then?  She went home and breast fed them.  Refused (but not irrationally - they were doing fine on breast only) to supplement.  I don't know exactly how to portray how amazing this seemed to me. 

Then today a lady delivered twins via c-section and breast fed them exclusively on Bringing Home Baby.  They were supplementing occasionally but she was uncomfortable with the idea, and what did they do?  BROUGHT IN A LACTATION CONSULTANT.  Did she tell them to give up, she was too exhausted to have a good supply and might be starving her babies?  Nope, she told her to pump at least 20 minutes a day, especially whenever the babies are taking bottles... and then the consultant zoomed into her own bubble and addressed the viewers directly, giving three tips for increasing breast milk production and to make feeding easier. 

HOLY SHIT!  Breast feeding is cool again?!? 

I am just so impressed.  It's not much.  There could be a lot less "drama" before commercials, less stress on "how wrong things can go," and much much more featuring of births with midwives, but still... it's a start.  Any baby steps towards helping remove the subconscious culture of fear and danger that surrounds birth in the US would be highly welcome.   I'm very very impressed, TLC.  

[Her Own] Language Development

I can't imagine being my daughter's age and suddenly being able to put things together, from brain to mouth, getting thoughts out into the world. 

Or maybe I can.  I remember the first time I said something in Spanish, correctly, in the actual context of a situation.  It's one thing to sit in a classroom and learn "guantes de lana" and "donde está la biblioteca," but suddenly all made sense when my friend's dad opened the door in Mexico City and I thought for a second and stammered, "Dónde está Daniela?"

Perhaps even more relevant was when the Japanese exchange student my senior year would make up inane little sayings that had more to do with how something sounded than it's actual English meaning.  (and we already know what sort of mayhem can result from that!)   Our authentic appreciation, in the form of hilarious laughter and endless repetition, probably encouraged her.  Like when she tried to convince my friend Chip to run for class president with the slogan, "Eat Eat Vote Vote Chip Chip." 

My daughter is the Japanese exchange student.

She is making connections which are logical yet hysterical. 
A good example:  boobs = milk. 
Well, sure.  She nursed to some extent until about 16 months or so, and knew the sign for milk and would tug at my shirt or poke me in the boobie and sign furiously, "milk milk milk!"  Now all boobs are milk.  Mama has "milk."  Marble statues have "milk."  Even just nipples are milk - cuz Dada and other babies have "milk" too.
Lately she'll pull the end of her shirt down over her knees so that they show through the material, and proudly say, "Nanoo's big milk, mama, look!  Nanoo have milk like mama"  Oh God.

Big = Dada
I will always remember my dear niece Molly.  She'd been seeing this "Saby" fellow around with her Aunt Lina for almost two whole summers, and couldn't figure out why.  We walked out onto the dock where she and her siblings were fishing, and I heard her exclaim, "Saby is Aunt Lina's DADDY!"  Ahhhhh.  Any boy that completes the set with another girl must obviously be a Daddy, because of the precedent set by her own Mommy and Daddy.  Ta da! 
Similarly, all things "big" and in anyway superlative in E's life are "dada."  Dada bite, dada loud.  Dada spider.  Dada sound.  Occasionally they are Dada Big, which must be just freakin' MASSIVE.  Have you met my husband?  He's Dada Dada.

Mama Mia references:
Anyone with pigtails or two braids is "honey honey" (notice the friends hairstyles during that song), and anyone with their belly showing is "jimmie jimmie jimmie" (like most of the outfits in that number).  Note that "jimmie" is said with a Hispanic J, so it's really "himmy" - and where this evolved from I know not.  She has tried to tie a bandana around her "milk" and go outside to sing "jimmie jimmie jimmie" but we're working on discouraging it...









 

Language Development

Bizarre how long ago it seems that I was transcribing the list of E's signs-and-then-words from the dry erase board in the kitchen to Spampylandia.  Oh, how quickly things have changed.

First came the two syllable words.  Then two words paired.  "More cheese" may have been the first of E's that didn't include "Mama"  (as in, "no mama" or "more, mama").  Then on July Fourth (or perhaps actually Saturday July 3rd, as it fell by the calendar) she spouted her first three word sentence of sorts, thanks to her buddy the big talker Pie, who is a quarter of a year older and more often than not, way ahead of her in the chitter-chatter.
Playing together on the slides at Shoup Park, E happily proclaimed "I do it!"  Notice the nifty pronoun as well.  That was a first.

Fast forward through some memorable events and their corresponding memorable phrases:

• buddy Gabe visiting with us over Labor Day ("shhh Gabe, no cry");  
• Dance class begins in September, and we've lied to get Elena into the 2.5 year old class with Pie.   More notably, when signing up for the class, we walked over to the wall of glass separating the pool area and E shouted like Big Chief Kickapoo about water and frogs... while Pie sagely noted in her breathy, logical way, "I... haven't... got... my swim togs."   (at this point, we decided to let E watch more Kipper, as the easy alternative to Pie's parents taking her in for language training!)
• Halloween ("trickotreeeeeat!"); 
• Thanksgiving with friends from Michigan, Chicago and Indiana ("where's aunties gone, mama? where's uncles?); 
• Thanksgiving buffet at the American Cafe downtown, where I let E carry her own plate back and forth warning her to watch out for all the people.  She returns to the buffet for dessert warning everyone in her path, "Watch out peoples!" 
• pre-Christmas brings the beginnings of a pacifier-regression where she wants it more outside of her crib than ever before, but we remember her first "big" grammatically correct sentence coming from that - "Look mama, I have my orange paci!"
• the advent of football season and her more theatrical than speech-related football player impressions  ("Yook!  yook!  poopall.  I running!" [then run-run-run, fake a dramatic catch, and fall down] "I fall down poopall, mama!  Dada, yook!  Poopall!")  
• Somewhere between there and Christmas was the first time she earnestly looked me in the eyes and told me, "Listen, mama."  OH MY GOODNESS... the scary reality of kids absorbing your every move sinks in then.
• Christmastime (which, thanks to a trip to Big Lots and a prelighted Christmas tree, began on Election Day 2010 and continued through the first week of January) where our bedtime routine grew to include, "Merry CHRISTmas, Happy New YEAAAAR" (emphasis hers), the recognition of Santa and snowmen at every turn (in stores, tv, signs, even yards), and her shocking-at-the-time ability to recognize Charlie Brown on wrapping paper after watching the Christmas special once a few weeks prior.  She didn't cry on Santa's lap, but she didn't exactly love the experience... though her watching the video message from Santa made me cry, and cry, and cry...
• In December sometime, E rightfully dubbed E-mac "Baby Loud."  Tells her on and off that "thisees OURS" and then takes toys away.  I don't mind since the "mine" stage is supposed to be very annoying and this "ours" novelty sounds delightfully Quaker... or Communist.  
• One January day we wander out, blanket-wrapped, to the mailbox and find a returned and damaged package inside.  "Oh shit!" is my gasped reaction when I realize what it is (it was an autographed book and family photos originally destined for my father-in-law) and Elena thoughtfully shows her empathy.  "Its broken, mama?"  Yes baby, it appears to be very broken and damaged, Mama is very sad.            She turns her face angelically to face mine, and with great concern asks, "its... f*cking, mama?" OH. MY. GOODNESS.   Wrong language for a two-and-a-half year old, but absolutely an A+ for correct context.  Appropriate serious discussion about good and bad words follows.  Hilarious recounting to Dada and friends also once child is safely in bed away from my uncontrollable laughter.  This is promptly archived in the "omg they absorb everything file" for all eternity.

• a water bottle cast off by buddy Gabe becomes officially known as "Rachel water" (and she teaches 16 month old twins the term "rachel water" later in March)
• Fearing the banishment and play restrictions that come with hurting herself, E officially becomes Baby BadAss by shouting "I feel better!" anytime any sort of actual or perceived injury occurs.  If you ask her if she's okay, she'll answer "No!" but that means yes.  Conversely, at the sound of any thump or "ow" or expletive, she'll come running and ask you if you're okay... and in the case of the expletive, tell you not to say that.
• Sometime in February we notice that E officially calls anyone who is Indian or Indian-looking "auntie" or "uncle", something she gathered on her own via all our friends.  The Spice Goddess becomes a bit of a regular in our house, and E comes running to the sound of her introduction, and narrates...  "There's cooking auntie!  Oh auntie... auntie is SO busy"  (although busy comes out more like "bizzzz-zie")  "Cooking hot ap-tay-toes, cutting onions.  Oooooooh, busy auntie!"
• The terrible twos never happened, though the terrible-two-and-a-halves pop up now and then.  I think it was late February the first time I was thoughtfully admonished by E:  "don't scream, mama... don't scream!"  This seems to bring us both back from the edge of whatever insanity we'd just experienced.
• Then we fly to California for a week of business for Dada, randomness for E and I.   Notably E impresses our Delta-flight neighbors with her renditions of Rihanna's "Umbrella", Lady Gaga's "Telephone", and unabashed overuse of  please and thank you.  She gifts three-dimensional bug stickers to the kind bioengineering professor next to us and wears sunglasses for the entire awake portion of both legs.  She eats her weight in cookies.  Maybe I'll remember more of what she actually SAID later.  She did tell an engaging man on the flight home that her cousins Leah and Lisa are her best friends in the whole world.
• Returning home from California, she's gathered in the use of "together", "everybody" and "upside down".  This may not sound like much, but a parent knows that strange feeling when you start hearing some all-together different and new words come out of your kid's mouth.  It's so novel.  So neat-o.  So much fun.  

Junior Doctor E

E found her little toy doctor's kit after an almost year-long absence.  She's been tending to us faithfully ever since. 

First she puts on the nametag, which says, "Junior Doctor" above her dutifully lettered-in name.  

With stethoscope in hand (and ears), "Is okay mama.  Shhh shhh shh." 


I'm laying on my back on the living room floor, pretending to moan in pain.

She pushes the listening end to my chest. 

"Doctor, is everything okay?  What do you hear?" I ask.

She takes the stethoscope off my chest; without missing a beat, she answers, "with my EARS, mama." 

How Insanely Skinny Was I?!?!?!

Or, as our allies in Britan would say, "Fit."



Dear Lord.  I will get this back.   Or at least toned-arm goodness of a comparable worthiness.


August 5th, 2006 isn't all that far gone.  Somewhere inside me, there's a 135lbs girl. 

The Aforementioned Project

The Journey Home | Make Your Own Book

See 50-some of it's 98 pages here, if you like. 

Jeesh

Wow.  A big project is on the verge of being 100% complete and forever off of my conscious and to-do list.

The memorial book that we had talked, rather flippantly, amongst family about making suddenly became a huge reality, with a very huge deadline.  I'm glad to say it is in that strange state between done-ness and actual tangibility.  I look forward to, probably after tonight, not having to pore over photographs of my husband's family again for a loooong time.  (Although they are definitely a good looking lot... lots of Middle Eastern features popping up here and there that make me wonder if they didn't have a relative on the boat with the Christians coming in from Syria in 400AD.  Plus so many six-foot-plus guys?  In SOUTHERN INDIA?!? But that's a whole different History Channel conspiratorial miniseries to pitch later...)

We've told my mother-in-law (Mummy) how I don't even know what all I'll do with my time now that this is finished.  But I do.  Here's the agenda for the rest of February.

1.  Begin losing 20 pounds.   (a buddy and I have joined the YMCA's Move2Lose program.  Dragging two kids each to the YMCA by 9:30am twice a week will be a workout in itself.  An exercise in patience you might say.  HA!  And each of us have a stranger-hater.  So let's just consider it a bonus that our workouts will be interrupted every 30 minutes as the kid-minding daycare workers come to fetch us to calm down our respective screaming girl kids.  (Note:  "my" beast is not actually mine, but is the daaahling E-mac.)

2.  Begin cleaning up the craft room.  I have a lovely sewing machine that is still in the box.  As I did a little photo shoot for the cover of this grandmother memory book (artsy shots of a rosary on a sari - of course, what else for your dearly departed Kerala Catholic grandma?) it came to my attention that these lovely cotton saris would make great, beautiful, and slightly exotic swaddling cloths.  And hip mommas are into that sort of thing.  So I shall mount that sewing machine's learning curve and make it my bitch, and hopefully our progeny will be delightfully stitched projects, beginning simply with those swaddling cloths.

3.  Organize the closets.  I keep looking around at our extra space and wondering, "what if we suddenly DID have family or friends move in with us?" (My parents have suddenly bought a place in Florida, and we have no idea what their plans are going forward.  Are they forsaking Ohio completely?  Planning to chuck in with us a month or two a year?  No idea, and I'm thinking they don't know actually either.  Secretly we're wondering if they wouldn't want to have their grandfather clock come and live with us!)  The acres of random, unfilled space in our home need to be made useful and geared for actual utilization, rather than just space to stack things.  Lord, I may even paint the guest room like I had imagined months back. Stop the presses. 

Right now, my plan is to simply vacuum.  Hope the kid is willing to help.  We'll make a game of it.  Game is called, "Help me vacuum or BEATINGS!"

(please note:  I don't actually beat my kid.) 

Cheers!

The Woman of Action Can't Beat Down the Woman of Stuff

I want a steam mop.  So very badly.  Oh, steam mop.  I want you.  Like the deserts miss the rain.  Or something like that. 
And I certainly wouldn't mind a nice tea kettle too. 
But other than that, seriously, I'm all good. 

A Woman of Action vs. A Woman of Stuff

It's been a big year for our little family.

We bought a house.  We bought stuff to fill the house.  We bought convenient, easy stuff to fill our bellies while we were busy moving the things we had bought for the house around the house. *head spins, stomach churns*

Long story short, this has left us fat, and with lots of bills.

We had guests in town for Thanksgiving, and in honor of their pending arrival we decided to take the plunge and finally buy one more mattress set, which would bring us up to such a total that we would have a bed in each bedroom, plus a futon downstairs, making lots of comfy space for our guests, current and future, to sleep.  (or sex it up.  but that's just a joke.  do not, under any circumstances, come to our house just to sex it up. please)  This is a very satisfying new development, and a pleasant coming-of-age for two formerly empty and nearly-empty bedrooms upstairs. 

Now, for the first time in my short-tenure as a homeowner, I can look around and be confident in the knowledge that we DO NOT NEED ANYTHING.  Sure, there may be a few wants here and there... but nothing is needed in the way that I needed that Expedit from Ikea to make the living room complete, or how we needed Shelly's loveseat to keep the recliners company in the study.  Those needs are even silly, as I often like to reflect upon Maslow's Heirarchy of Needs to remind myself that I'm really pretty lucky to be so content and sated that I find myself on the top of the pyramid, judging ('cuz it says morality, right?) the folks struggling down below.  There are televisions, networks, places to sit, tools with which to cook (and the food to be cooked as well)... all in all, relative comforts, and mostly well-utilized ones, abound.

So now that we're fully furnished with stuff, I have great great intentions of becoming a
WOMAN OF ACTION! 

What, you ask, is a woman of action?  Well. (as I pour myself a glass of wine, in order to tonight be a woman of slightly-less coordinated actions) 

I wanna DO stuff.  Remember that post where I was talking about how much sh*t I got done while the internet was inaccessible? 

Oh, Dr. Seuss... you had it SO right, man!  THE THINGS YOU CAN DO!  Here I am waiting for bread I baked (action!!) to cool, while typing my blog  (action!).  One of the lesser things in life indeed, but it's better than trolling Facebook, right?  Plus it's like I'm making my whole mental plan tangible... putting it out there for folks to, hopefully, hold me somewhat accountable to my intentions.  (ACTION!!!)

 Here's my list. 

1.  Lose weight.  Every little bit counts but 10-15 pounds would be ideal, and 25 lbs would be bitchin'
2.  Continue organizing the house - especially the craft room
3.  START SEWING!  (dependent on #2)
4. Potty train E-Unit
5.  De-pacify the E-Unit... (another blog, another time)
6.  Paint guest/office room and decorate in "City" theme as planned
7.  Monetize blog in slightly-less hardcore manner as the fabulous FlutieMcD (of course, only after committing to posting at least 3x a week and having super-awesome content) and revel in the idea of being able to fancy myself a "writer" - if even *just* (hahaha) a "Mommy Blogger"
8.  Get myself, the handsome husband, and my no-longer-flying-free 2+ year old out of the country for a vacation fit to remember forevah.  Germany/France?  Perhaps.  Club Med in el Caribe?  Maybe.  Just plain Florida with family?  Even that'd do.  Most ideal?  Western Ireland by car for 4 days, on the way to India.  (And then a train trip to visit friends and the ruins at Hampi while in India.  Oh Lordy, I can dream.)
9.  Um... have more babies?  Yeah, somewhere in there, that'd be pretty cool.  So yeah, have more babies.
10.  Raise aforementioned babies to be awesome little buggers like E-Unit

That's the problem with becoming a Woman of Action -  seem's that there's inherently some tangible, shoppable portion of the dream.  Me wanting to stop focusing on the material and get the proverbial shit done somehow translates to me wanting to TRAVEL.  Me wanting more children means there's definitely a deadline to those much-imagined travels.   I imagine my fitter, more-organized self unloading jauntily off of a plane with the hubba and toddler in tow, toward adventures and relaxation in new surrounds.  Super-skinny self?  Oh, that foxy BITCH!  She would be unloading in Lima, Peru, holding the hubba's hand and breathlessly carrying the child in a backpack up the Inca trail, into the clouds of Macchu Pichu...

Shit.  There is one more thing I need.   

E-Mac

Ahhh, my fellow Spampylandians, my apologies on there being no action here in Spampylandia.

While I've been virtually dormant, life has been literally bonkers for about the last three weeks.  The E-Unit and I are the proud new weekday watchers of a jolly little gibblet named E-Mac (or at least we'll call her that, in order to differentiate her from our own E-Unit.)  This new "acquisition" came about when E-Mac's mommy decided to go back to school.  E-Mac didn't like this much and decided that daycare was for the birds, and spent most of two days trying to get this message across to the daycare provider.  Unfortunately, this particular daycare provider did not speak E-Mac and instead, BOOTED HER OUT OF THE DAYCARE! (this is a rather sore subject, as often touched upon by my friend Aunt TT in her frank and heartwarming blog The Vampire, the Drama Queen, & Aunt TT)

As ri-damn-diculous as that whole "hey let's take a baby and reject her for doing what babies do" concept sounds, it provided us the opportunity to be backup daycare providers until that faroff day when E-Mac makes it to the top of a long waiting list for another daycare.  'Til then, we are quite tickled to have an extra little friend around, and I've been quite busy learning the ins and outs of this Unit's operating system.

Like...
How to make bottles (woah.... check it: I never used formula!  had no clue how to use it.  luckily instructions on the can are written in simple, zombie-suited language) and then best way to give kid said bottle.

And...
Getting new-to-me baby to nap in new-to-her house and crib, without sending new-to-her me into the loony bin with her apparently new-to-everyone screaming fits  (this has tremendously improved, btw!)

Really she's a darling little peach who, when happy, is the most content child I've seen since the first E-Unit rolled off the line in Aught Eight.  The adjustments have been more for myself in preparation for E-Mac's daily arrivals, and include going to bed at 9:30pm and waking up at just a smidge before 6am...  

You can imagine how that went the first couple of days...

But it's much better now...

But that's why I haven't written.